A bit of a learning curve...

I admit it I really don't know much about being a dominatrix...sure I can be a bitch sometimes but that's not the same thing. I've just come to that realization this week.

To be a better dominatrix I need to understand that it's not all about being mean, it's more of an understanding of my slave and how to control him. Realizing that he needs positive reinforcement as well as punishment.

My last experience in this world was nothing like this one. I really need to stop quasi comparing the two and put the past where it belongs...behind me and quickly move on from it.

I need to listen to my instincts more...isn't that what the whole principle behind the dominatrix experience - confidence and trust. It's about time I do more than walk the walk and talk the talk but actually know that I can do this rather than letting outside influences in and control me.

To be continued . . .

~Minxtress

Alright since this is 'Confessions' and all...

Here's something I must confess...having the power that I do over SVP is a blessing and a curse.

If we talk about something I want him to do I must be willing to deal with the consequences of those actions.

For example, one day we were texting (of course) and the conversation went to him being so horny and getting hard while in the steam room of his gym (and he knows he must have my permission to cum.) When he was in there another man came in and the man was checking his hard cock out. The other man was stroking himself hoping that SVP would join in, but he refrained from doing much besides stroking his cock a little.

So last Sunday SVP was heading to the gym later in the day and we had the steam room conversation again.
He asked if he could stroke his cock (my answer - Yes you can), what he should do if someone comes in (my answer - Your choice), should he let them see his hard cock (my answer - of course), what he should do if they want to watch or touch it (my answer - Let him), what if they want to make him cum (my answer - if they are stroking it, you can), what if they want to suck his cock (my answer - he may). Then time ran out of the day and he didn’t make it to the gym. However, he was going the next day (Monday morning) and asks if the situation were to happen the following day would he be allowed to have another man handle his cock.

The next day I missed an early morning text from SVP "Mmm on my way to the gym for you baby." Later in the morning I texted him about the gym and such. His reply is one the reason for this post of mine..."I was. I was in the steam room and one guy came in and started stroking me. Someone else came in so I went a took a shower. I them went back in and another guy came in while I was hard. He stoked and sucked on me while he pulled my balls when I got close eventually making me cum in his mouth for you."

Now I realize that I need to be clear on exactly what I want from SVP, knowing how far he will go for me.

To be continued. . .

~Minxtress

What's new, pussycat?

Sadly...nothing.

SVP and my schedule haven't worked to see each other yet. It's starting to bug me a lot. I'm over just have this relationship over text.

And Dallas...well I heard from him at about 11:30 last Friday night. Wanted to call me...but I didn't let that happen. That is still a work in progress...haven't quite decided if I'm letting him go or not...

To be continued. . .

~Minxie and Minxtress

Could this be the end to Dallas...?

After just shy of a week since getting rain checked by Dallas, I texted him. It was a reasonably nice text considering, something about being curious and thinking it was rude that I hadn't heard from him in almost a week since being rain checked by him. His reply was that he hurt his back and was confined to his apartment. I do feel sorry that he injured his back but my empathy somewhat stops there since he can clearly text me back. I was nice to text him me being sorry for his injury. No word back yet...

I'm not sure what the future holds for me and Dallas since this is how it's starting.

To be continued . . . ?

~Minxie

I thought it would be more fun...

Alright. I thought all this would be more fun than it is. It's been three weeks since I first met SVP and two and a half since I saw him. In that time it's been texting...a lot of texting. My last failed attempt at a domme/sub relationship was all texting, a little bit of phone calls and even less in person. So I am rather anxious in a very good way to get started in person rather texting.

I'm hoping that when we see each other again it will be fun...right now it's more like a chore.

To be continued . . .

~Minxtress

Is it all about SVP?

No...there is another man who has my attention. However, not the same way SVP does...Dallas is a seemingly nice guy who would never become my pet. Not that he couldn't use some discipline. He has become increasingly frustrating...

We met on a online dating site, exchanged a few emails then he asked if he could have my number to call me. I obliged and gave him my number, we traded a few texts, he asked what I doing that evening and is doing his best to get me to meet him. I don't relent and we text a bit more, then he wanted to call me. We chatted on the phone for about 45 minutes. He seems like a nice, romantic guy, the type that girls always are looking for. He's leaving for Dallas for the weekend (hence how he got his nickname). He said he'd text me the next day...the day came and went with nothing from him. The following day, Friday, I texted him and there were few texts back and forth.

Monday, I heard from him again. He had just back into town and wondered what I was doing later. I had big plans of errands, laundry and stuff at home. He continued to try to get me to meet him after I was done with all that. He didn't quite get that I wasn't quite ready to make a first face to face impression (I had my pj's on, makeup was washed off already and my hair was in a ponytail on top my head). Tuesday I heard from him again, quickly threw in that I had plans that night and asked if we could meet up Wednesday night. Yes we could, perfect...let's meet somewhere in downtown Sunnyvale (somewhat in the middle between me in SJ and him in Mtn View). I give him the choice of where to meet and he decides on DishDash, a mediterranean restaurant (really that's what he chooses, ok Minx, just go with it). And so we have our first meeting and possible first date.

Until Wednesday morning...I get a text from him "Rain check?" to I reply "Uh, sure" he explains "Something came up" I reply "Ok" I get this from him "I'll txt u later on" I respond with "Alright".

And that's where the Dallas story ends for now...I haven't received a text, a call, nothing. I haven't texted him either...

To be continued . . . ?

~Minxie

To answer how SVP got his name...

SVP's real name is . . . . . . now, now - remember names have been changed to protect the naughty. I still officially only know SVP's first name, as he does only mine. In my first encounter with SVP he talked about a previous company he worked, and a general idea what he does or at least what department he is in charge of.

After I learned this during our first encounter, my curiosity was piqued as to who he really is. I googled what I knew of him. I came to realize his job title is Senior Vice President, Global Sales. In sharing this information with my bff, I gave him the nickname 'SVP', rather than saying his name.

When I address him, he is 'my pet'.

To be continued . . .

~Minxie and Minxtress